Monday, March 26, 2012

March Maddness

I CANT NOT BELIEVE it is the end of march already!! Where in the world did the month go. I had surgery and it seemed like the month just flew by. I am feeling happy to see the spring coming but sad that the days are going by SO fast.
On a side note I have had a great break from all my training this month just letting my body rest. No gym or ballet classes...which is a hard one for me. I have a had a restful time with my kids and husband. I know there are things that need to get done but I just feel like I want to just be mellow. I did get the basement storage room done and the bathroom painted... pictures to come soon. I promise....I have been really bad about pictures lately. I use to carry my camera EVERY where. I has been a while since I have even taken any pictures worth posting. I will try try to get a picture soon of what we have been up to.
I had one of my close childhood friends in this week at my house. I posted about her before in an older post. "Meme" is a great girlfriend and she always knows when to be there for me. She travels far to come to important things in my life. Plus she is my "bouncer". Not an actual BOUNCER hahaha....This is a word I got from a great councilor. It means a person that can always see things from other angles so they give you a good prospective of what is actually happening. Which I guess when you think about it is a lot like a physical bouncer that would protect you from harms way. But I think it really more like "bounces off from" Like your rubber and I'm ..well...rubber too...hahaa. I have a few of these types of friends. She is one I love to use because she always stays neutral in her position if it involves love ones. I was using family members. I think this was mostly upsetting my husbands ability to feel comfortable when he would get around family. Not because he does horrible things all the time. Its just hard to be in the company of people all the time that KNOW what you may be ashamed of doing last week. They were not there in the room after it got fixed between you and the other person. I try to use safe "bouncers". People who will not use the information against you later or won't vomit your life to everyone they encounter. I love this friends for that. She never makes be feel like I am being judged or that she is going to blab it off to anyone. She is also is a women who has build her life up to be what she has wanted it to be. She is on her way in singing and playing the guitar. Her band is the opener for John Micheal Montgomery in July. She still teaches her first love Jazz and hip hop for competition teams where she lives. Plus, she goes to school full time and has three kids that are very bright and well behaved. She is very intelligent. Has a easy time getting school down and is always willing to learn. Her knowledge of gospel history is very strong. She just lives her life! She may do it differently then some but she lives at her pace. She seems to pull all of it together to really make it work. She will be getting into her first home hopefully this month and I am so happy for her. She has waited along time to have this much balance in her life. I wish I could just follow her to her house and live next store. But I know she and I will always be close. I am hoping to go see her house in April and maybe go on a trip sometime with her and her husband this year.
It was hard to see her leave today. I know its obviously what has to happen its just hard to live so far from all my besties. My sister lives 21 hours away (another one a miss all the time), I have a bestie that's 9 hours, her, that lives 7hours and only one or two that are 2 to 3 hours away. I have some friends here too (don't want to forget them). I just hate that some of my closest friends live SO FAR AWAY. Its life, I know not everyone can stay next to each other forever plus it makes thing fun when you get together. I love my life here and I love my companionship with my best friend of all, my MAN.
What would life be with out meeting friends for fun weekends and vacations. That's what makes us look forward to something. I know even though I am not with my besties they are always with me and I with them. They are my heavenly sister anyways, right!
........"God be with you....Til meet again."

Tuesday, March 13, 2012

My amazing MAN.


I had surgery this past week on March 7th 2012. One of the most nervous days of my life, so far. I was totally freaked to go under. I have never had any major medical situations most of my life. Besides my horrible eye sight, really I've only been treated for, what my doctor thought, was Endometriosis since I was 14. Even then it was just treatment. Treatment with Hormones is normal for females and I was never really diagnosed. Mostly because the only way to diagnose Endo is to cut the patient open. Through Laparoscopic. Not the favorite choice for most people. So, I went on a birth control with a hormone in it to help. So here I am 17 years later with my eye sight at an alarming -11.5 and my uterus, after two kids (which I am thankful to have because Endo patients can not have children in most cases), falling apart. Well not falling but hurting and ...well you get the point. So I went in to get a looksy to see what has been going on the past 17 years. Results being that "yes" I had quiet a bit growing and a lot of scar tissue. So after an hour and a half surgery I was released to my sweetheart who took time off to be with me through this whole ordeal. Thats mostly what this post is on about how I fell in love with my husband of 10 years this past week while he nursed me back to health. He had to help me to the bathroom, bring me everything needed, made food, took care of the kids, cleaned up the house so visitors and I would feel more comfortable, did the dishes after every meal, got up with me a night, did I mention handled all the errands while watching both the kids and on top of all this he did every stitch of laundry in the house Sunday night then took one more day off so that I could sleep in one more day and rest. Its going to be hard to come back to reality hahaaa. I know it took every fiber of himself to do all this on days off. He didn't really get to sleep in ONE day out of 6 days off. I am the first one to say that sometimes house hold duties do not get a pat on the back as often as I should I have the theory "if you pooped in it you can clean it too" But I can see when acts of love through the language of Service NEED a "pat". I couldn't help but have my "cup over flow" with love each night when I lied down and he would lovely hold my hand.
On another side note....want to know how I know I am an -11.5 eye sight? My sweet husband took me in to see if I could get Lasik done this year like I have wanted like FOREVER! We found out I am not even close to being a candidate they stop at -10. He again was so wonderful through that horrible news. He holding off on his Lasik even though he is a candidate, let me go shopping and kept telling me we needed to get a second opinion on mine. So I did. Come to find out there is another option for me its called "Visian". He wants me to do it even though it's twice the amount as Lasik. I still think I am, I just told him I wanted to save for it instead of running right out and getting it done this month. One word sums up my MAN this month....SUPPORT.
I know this is a mushy post but Hay! I do have a GREAT husband. I want to shout it out to every corner of my house and neighborhood! Not sure he'd like the much attention but its well earned that's for sure!

Tuesday, March 6, 2012

I was going to be a good girl!

I was so trying to make it a goal to post at least one post a month and try for once a week as a bonus. I kinda bombed from out of the gate with not posting in February. 0Ops. So now I will post 2 this month for sure. hahaa.

Thanks to my WONDERFUL example of a blogger (my sister jamiebug.blogspot.com)
I was award a Liebster Award by her. This a great thing to be given! I think blogs are so much more interesting then Facebook posts mostly because they are more involved. Sadly its a dieing art for some of my fellow bloggers. Its nice to get a boost of support from readers who like to read your posts. Please give these out so you can keep your favorite bloggers blogging.

Liebster is a German word that literally translates to "favorite", "dearest" or "beloved". By one blogger giving it to another, they are essentially saying, your blog is a favorite of mine. I think it's great that I have been awarded this. I blog mostly to keep up on events in my life for those family members who live away and want to know whats happen in our life in our little hometown. Also because I LOVE to express myself through all mediums writing has always been a difficult medium for me because I am horrible at spelling and English. I figure the more I do it the better I will get. Hopefully hahaaa.

Here are the rules....

1) Acknowledge the blogger who gave the award by linking back to them
2) Give this award to 5 other bloggers (who have fewer than 200 readers), and let them know through a comment on their blog
3) Post the award on your blog
4) Best of all - bask in the glory, have fun and share the love!

Well here are my picks

jamiebug.blogspot.com
Jamie ...Well it pretty obvious why I LOVE this blog. My best friend for life my sis this is her blog. She is a inspiration to me. I LOVE LOVE LOVE how she is sooooo dedicated. I always know she will have a new post once a week. I love getting on her blog to see her new thoughts and endeavors she is getting ready to tackle with arms wide open. She is a great example of a blogger and a person with spirit and will. Did I also say she is extremely talented!!!

http://candibird.blogspot.com/
Candi.. my cousin she is one of the most endearing people I know. I love how she can take on her motherhood with so much joy. We have had a great friendship since I was a little girl. Giggling at night after the lights were out at grandmas as she's telling us to ...GO TO BED! Well as loud as sweet grandma can...haha. I love her family and her strong will for her family. She is the type of mamma bear you don't mess with. hahaa. This is why her blog is SO fun to read.

http://mostvaluablepossession.blogspot.com/
Sheri....Ahwa sherbear. We started out college roomies and I knew from the moment I met her we where going to be friends. She was super fun to pal around with and now I am far away and the only way I really know what is happening in her life is to read her blog. And she IS A BLOGGER. She is another great example to me of how to "getter done".

http://thedaileyconnection.blogspot.com
Becca....another dear family member that is SOOOO supportive of her friends and relatives ....Im pretty sure to everyone she meets too. She has a smile that is contagious and I light that she shares with people she comes in contact with. I have always looked up to her as an artist and her ability to be so strong. I am younger then her by a few years and I really thought of her as I looked to getting marriage as a teenager. She married the love her life after waiting for him for 2 years. I have always loved reading about them seeing how they live away and I only get to see her once a year. She is a wonderful mother to her babies! Every post wrapped in love and support.

http://devinandmichelleogden.blogspot.com/
Michelle...I follow this blog not only because her husband is my husbands best bud but because I LOVE her. She so sweet and very cool. I love hanging out with them. There is times were we can't make it up there to see them so I can just get on her blog to see what they have been up to. Thats important to me to keep up so we don't get any surprises just because we live away! :(

Ok and I have to do one more because she is an avid blogger.....
http://stephenandmary.blogspot.com/
Mary....she is a good friend of mine from high school that I reconnected with after her daughter took ballet from me at my school a few years back.. I am so glad too because she has such a love for her family and life. I love her laugh it is so cheerful. I also love that her blog is so fun to read with her well written posts about what is dear to her. Which is what life and blogging is all about!! right?


Love all my blogger friends but I have picked this ones because I know I have left the award in good hands. Love you all! MWAH!!

Friday, January 13, 2012

Lier ...lier pants on fire!


I kinda had to post this this morning because I finally had the last straw with my 6 year lying to get out of trouble. Said she was going to finally have to spend the day in her room for lying to me. Sad thing is I always give her prompts to tell me the truth and she sometimes does but most the time doesn't. She get so focused on not getting in trouble for the small thing she just LIES through her teeth. I have always threatened the day in her room but never really had the heart to do it. Plus that sux for me can't go anywhere. I saw this quote after this all went down I started feeling like I may have done the above. I know she is still young but I think this is when you have to teach the harder things in life like being nice to others (even when it hard) and not lying to get out of what you don't want to deal with. If I don't make it hard for her when she lies I believe she will just continue to lie mostly because she has. We have been threatening this consequence for the past year. Like I said I have never followed all the way through because she is so young that 2 or 3 hours in her room could seem like forever so we always let her out after a while. I am really trying to do the right thing by teaching her this. I was taught this from my parents and I believe it is what has helps me to be a person with integrity and honor. Plus I was never allowed to run away from my problems or the consequences of my decisions. To be honest ( since we are talk about that...hahaha) I haven't tolerated being lied to EVER. If someone I loves lies to me I see it for what it is and either call them out on it or I make a mental note to not trust them if they want to lie. I think when you really think about it there is never a time when its OK to lie. It really is just a way to run away from what you don't want to say to someone or deal with. White lies are all to common in today's world what use to be a matter of manners sometimes gets justified as I don't want to hurt so I will lie. So anyways, I guess I am just trying to figure out when I should make this a matter of consequence to my children. So I did some research on the matter this the website
I used .... http://www.parenting-ed.org/handout3/Specific%20Concerns%20and%20Problems/lying.htm

I feel like it helped me get a better grip on what I am doing with her at her age. I am going to speak with my husband and I think we'll be having to make a new consquese because I think ALL day is a bit much for her at her age. Maybe if she is still doing as she gets older like pass the age of 8 . Then an all day room consequence might be called for. When they can ACTUALLY tell time. Hahahahaa. Here's to the challenges we face a parents! Grrrrr